Notle Chew grew up a Crazy Rich Asian. Who later ended up joining the Secret Society & running one of Singapore’s first social escort businesses (and a successful one at that!) for almost 7 years before he ended up in prison.Which, as you can tell, is not a story you’d normally find on STIMY. But also a story I’ve really wanted to have told.Because I believe that we can learn so much from people from all different parts of society.And Notle’s life story is a cautionary tale, while also giving us a glimpse into a part of society that isn’t often heard of. There is a price to be paid for our actions and in Notle’s case, a hefty one.Some things we talked about:What it means be a member of the secret society; The concept of trust and brotherhood, the initiation process is like and how he ended up leaving the secret society;The 8 o’clock rule;Why he started a social escort business, and grew it to be one of the top businesses around;How he ended up being caught;What it was like being in prison;How he shook off his depression and suicidal thoughts; andWhy he believes 80% of ex-convicts can't be helped.As we cover a lot of heavy topics, please consider this a trigger warning.Highlights:3:19 The name “Notle”4:01 Life of a Crazy Rich Asian6:49 Recruited to join the secret society in school11:56 The 8 o’clock sharp rule19:15 Paying the price to leave the secret society22:08 Initiation process for secret society members24:56 The secret society mindset26:10 How trust operates in a secret society27:01 What does “justice” mean?27:30 Brotherhood30:50 Starting a social escort business33:44 Advertising for female workers39:25 Staying competitive41:08 The business model44:40 Business expansion46:48 Being caught by the police47:47 Life in prison49:18 Finding God49:18 Not regretting prison54:36 Healing broken relationships59:57 Triad Trails & the girl1:04:54 Best way for society to support ex-convicts1:05:47 80% of ex-convicts will never change1:07:40 Identifying the 20% that can be helped?Show notes: www.sothisismywhy.com/102 ?  Weekly Newsletter on upcoming STIMY guests/interesting reads to make you the most interesting person in the room: https://sothisismywhy.ck.page/ebf231f605 Leave a review on STIMY: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/so-this-is-my-why/id1521191442