How do you cultivate deeper connection through communication?
How can you summon compassion in the heat of conflict?
How do you define non-violent communication?
What is polyvagal theory?



 

 

 

 

 

Sander T. Jones joins Jess and Brandon to explore these questions and share additional concepts from their book, Cultivating Connection: A practical guide for personal and relationship growth in ethical non-monogamy. 

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A Guide to Compassionate Communication

Episode 334

[00:00:00] You're listening to the sex with Dr. Jess podcast, sex and relationship advice. You can use tonight

[00:00:15] Jess O'Reilly: here in Atlanta at sex down south. And the reason you know, we're at six down south is that I have no voice left.

[00:00:21] Brandon Ware: I was going to say, you got your sexy voice going on.

[00:00:23] Jess O'Reilly: Oh my dear God. And it's not from being in the dungeon.

[00:00:25] Jess O'Reilly: It's not from doing anything fun. I think it's just from dry air.

[00:00:28] Brandon Ware: You should have said it was something fun.

[00:00:29] Jess O'Reilly: I know. I know. I wish it was something more fun, but we are having a great time. And if you've ever listened before and heard me talk about Sex Town South, I think it's the most brilliant sex conference.

[00:00:39] Jess O'Reilly: It is my absolute favorite. Uh, I'm such a massive fan of Marla and Tia, the founders. Marla, of course, is the coauthor of our latest book. And, uh, among the brilliant minds who are presenting here in Atlanta, we have with us right now, Sander T. Jones, a licensed clinical social worker, certified hypnotherapist.

[00:00:55] Jess O'Reilly: Ooh, I want to ask you about that. author. Uh, you're located in Atlanta. You have over a decade of experience and you've recently released Cultivating Connection, a practical guide for personal and relationship growth in ethical non monogamy. Thank you for chatting with us.

[00:01:08] Sander T. Jones: Thank you so much for having me.

[00:01:10] Sander T. Jones: It's really an honor to be on your show.

[00:01:11] Jess O'Reilly: Oh, well, we're, we're so appreciative. I'm excited to learn from you. I've looked over all of the wealth of info. in your latest book, Cultivating Connection. I think it's your first book, right? It is my first book. Yes. Congrats on that. Well, first and foremost, tell us about you.

[00:01:24] Jess O'Reilly: Tell us a little bit about your background, professional, personal, anything you feel like sharing.

[00:01:27] Sander T. Jones: Okay. Professional background. I specialize in treating people in the ethically non monogamous communities. Also LGBTQ plus communities, kink, BDSM and leather communities and people who do voluntary sex work.

[00:01:39] Sander T. Jones: Therapeutically, I specialize in treating trauma and doing relationship therapy. My personal background is one where I come from a background where I went through a lot of abuse as a child and spent a good 25 years working on myself before I became trained to be a therapist. And so a lot of what has motivated me to write a book and the future books I plan on [00:02:00] writing is that when I was young,