We're talking sex, no sex, arbitrary rules around sex, and shame around sex as we unpack the differences between straight and gay sexual "norms" with Matthew Beier. We discuss why heteronormative traditions are still so difficult to break out of, how the lack of "rules" have influenced gay sex culture, and how the fundamental differences have overarching similarities for all of us to keep evolving our views on sex.Follow us @dateablepodcast. Check out our website for more content, virtual live show dates, and merch. Join the Sounding Board at https://www.dateablepodcast.com/soundingboardThank you to our partners for this episode:BetterHelp: Get 10% off your first month of online therapy at betterhelp.com/dateable with the code DATEABLEGobble: Get 6 meals for $36 plus free shipping visit gobble.com/dateableCloudPaper: Get your environmentally friendly toilet paper for 15% off your first order use the code DATEABLE at https://cloudpaper.co/Cover art Photography Credit: Larry Wong #lwongphotoDateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcastsOur Sponsors:* Check out Armoire and use my code DATEABLE for a great deal: http://www.armoire.style* Check out Hinge: https://hinge.co/* Check out VIIA and use my code DATEABLE for a great deal: https://viiahemp.com/Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-podcast/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy