S3 - #6 Beyond Codependency - Shame Venting | A Codependent Mind Podcast

S1 - #2 Codependency and Trauma: Often codependence behaviors emerge as a response to trauma. What is trauma? How is it different then other stressful, even violent, events? What is it like to live with unhealed trauma? This is Brian's story. In this episode: 00:00:55 What is traum... by A Codependent Mind

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S1 - #3 Codependency and Trauma Bonding: Website: https://www.codependentmind.com/ In this episode, Stephanie and Brian discuss the concept of trauma bonding within codependent relationships, particularly focusing on two of Brian's past romantic relationships characterized by abuse and narc... by A Codependent Mind

38 min listen

S3 - #3 Beyond Codependency - People Pleasing: website: https://www.codependentmind.com/ People pleasing sounds good. Why wouldn't we want the people in our life to be pleased? In this episode we explore the connect between people pleasing and codependency and discuss the problems people pleasing... by A Codependent Mind

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S2 - #3 Healing Codependency - Re-Writing Stories: Website: https://www.codependentmind.com/ Stories are powerful tools to help us understand ourselves and our lives. Unfortunately for Brian, many of the stories he adopted or told did just the opposite - served to further cloud and obfuscate what was... by A Codependent Mind

37 min listen

S1 - #5 Codependency and Lack of Agency: Website: https://www.codependentmind.com/ What is involved in the concept of 'personal agency'? How is agency or its lack connected to codependent behaviors? We explore Brian's experience with those questions in mind. What is involved in the concept ... by A Codependent Mind

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S3 - #4 Beyond Codependency - Relationships: website: https://www.codependentmind.com/ In this episode, we talk about the different kinds of relationships Brian has had in his life - with abusive people, with other 'codependent's, and with 'healthy' people. Stephanie and Brian discuss how they ... by A Codependent Mind

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S1 - #6 Codependency and Shame: Website: https://www.codependentmind.com/ Shame evolved to give us information about the world. But trauma induced shame can be overwhelming and crippling, even life-threatening. Understanding the role shame played in his life and fueled his codepend... by A Codependent Mind

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S2 - #5 Healing Codependency - Loving a Codependent Mind: Website: https://www.codependentmind.com/ In this episode, we flip the script and Stephanie discusses her experiences loving, and trying to form a relationship with, someone who engages in codependent behaviors. 00:03:03 Stephanie's past00:04:35 Jek... by A Codependent Mind

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S1 - #1 Codependency - Origins: What is codependency? And from where do codependent behaviors emerge? Every 'codependent' has an origin story. This is Brian's. Website: https://www.codependentmind.com/ * We have learned a lot as we have done this podcast. One thing Brian realized i... by A Codependent Mind

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S1 - #4 Codependency and Narcissism: Website: https://www.codependentmind.com/ Narcissists are an especially dangerous and toxic pairing for people with codependent behaviors, due to the way each person’s maladaptive behaviors work together. In this episode we discuss the general charac... by A Codependent Mind

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S2 - #1 Healing Codependency - Getting Started: Website: https://www.codependentmind.com/ This season explores how Brian worked to 're-make' his codependent mind. In this episode we discuss the challenges that Brian faced in getting started on that process and what was needed for him to begin to h... by A Codependent Mind

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S3 - #5 Beyond Codependency - Family of Origin: In this episode we take the opportunity to talk more about Brian's 'family of origin' and how it had more of an effect on the development of his codependent behaviors than either of us realized. Brian discusses his father's anger issues, his mother's... by A Codependent Mind

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S4 - #5 Codependency and Relationships - Anniversary Episode: This episode we celebrate one year of doing the podcast! It has been a tremendous learning experience for both of us, we have each learned a lot about ourselves and it has strengthened and deepened our connection to each other. We have also learned s... by A Codependent Mind

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S2 - #4 Healing from Codependency - Breaking the Powerlessness Habit: Website: https://www.codependentmind.com/ Even after largely healing from the trauma that started Brian down the path of codependency, he was still left with the behaviors that formed in response to that trauma. So although the source of the codepend... by A Codependent Mind

40 min listen

S3 - #2 Beyond Codependency - Diagnosis: Codependency is not an official diagnosis in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual (DSM) of Mental Disorders. What does that mean and does it matter? And what is a diagnosis anyway? How can it help or hurt the healing process? Website: https://www.co... by A Codependent Mind

31 min listen

S4 - #2 Codependency and Relationships: Dependency, Codependency and Interdependency: Unlike Codependency, Dependency Personality Disorder is listed in the Diagnostic Statistical Manual as a recognized personality disorder. Both Dependency and Codependency, however, share many maladaptive behaviors and can be rooted in negative childh... by A Codependent Mind

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S1 - #7 Codependency and Emotional Immaturity: Website: https://www.codependentmind.com/ The process of learning what emotions are and how manage them was interrupted for Brian at a very early age by abuse and trauma. Because of that, he never really learned how to identify his emotions or what ... by A Codependent Mind

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S3 - #7 Beyond Codependency - The Serenity Prayer: The Serenity Prayer is often said at 12-step meetings like Alcoholic Anonymous and even Codependent Anonymous. But it can challenging to enact, especially if you were caught in codependency's web as Brian was. Now that he has recognized and recovered... by A Codependent Mind

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S2-#2 Healing Codependency - Emotional Development: Website: https://www.codependentmind.com/ In this episode we discuss the steps that Brian took to repair the damage done to his emotional system by abuse and trauma. From capacity building through understanding and now working on mastery, Brian has b... by A Codependent Mind

45 min listen

S3 - #12 Beyond Codependency - 12 Steps: In "The Big Book" of Alcoholics Anonymous, 12 steps are suggested as a program of recovery. Those 12 steps have been adopted, with minimal changes, by Co-dependents Anonymous. Brian did not find the CoDA or the AA steps helpful in his efforts to unde... by A Codependent Mind

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S5-#7 Codependency Voices: Chris on Happy Endings: website: https://www.codependentmind.com/ Chris shares with us his story of codependency recovery. From a lonely, difficult childhood, through two marriages to disordered partners, through isolation, depression and despair, Chris found his way out of... by A Codependent Mind

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S3 - #6 Beyond Codependency - Shame Venting: If shame is not resolved, it can just build up and up until the pressure of trying to suppress it gets to be too much. Then what do you do with it? One way Brian attempted to relieve the pressure from his pent up shame was 'shame-venting' or over-sh... by A Codependent Mind

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S3 - #1 Beyond Codependency - Boundaries: Website: https://www.codependentmind.com/ There is a lot of talk about personal boundaries these days - having them, respecting them, enforcing them. But what exactly are personal boundaries? Brian and Stephanie do a deep dive into the concept of bou... by A Codependent Mind

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S3 - #13 Beyond Codependency - 12 Steps, part 2: This episode is a continuation of the previous episode, S3 - #12 Beyond Codependency - 12 Steps. We discuss steps six through 12. Below are all 12 steps, plus reference to previous episodes that expand on the ideas and actions described by each ind... by A Codependent Mind

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S3 - #9 Beyond Codependency - Caretaking: One-sided caretaking is a hallmark of a codependent relationship. But caretaking is a natural human instinct. How do you know if the caretaking you are doing is healthy and appropriate or if it is a codependent habit? Thank you for liking, reviewing ... by A Codependent Mind

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S4 - #3 Codependency and Relationships: Emotional Regulation: Learning how to regulate your emotions is a critical to be able to go on to develop healthy, stable relationships. Unfortunately, that learning is interrupted and/or distorted for many people; it was for Brian. We discuss how what emotional regulatio... by A Codependent Mind

31 min listen

S4 -#4 Codependency and Relationships: Trust: Trust has been a major issue in our relationship. Brian's codependent habits, which included people pleasing and reflexive lying, made it difficult to for him to trust himself and consequently, difficult for Stephanie to place her trust in him and in... by A Codependent Mind

41 min listen

S3 - #11 Beyond Codependency - Anger and Resentment: Along with shame and fear, anger and resentment are two challenging emotions for people with codependent habits to deal with. That was certainly the case for Brian. In this episode we explore the differences between anger and resentment, where they c... by A Codependent Mind

40 min listen

S3 - #8 Beyond Codependency - Listener Questions: In this episode, we answer listener questions. 1. Was there ever a time you felt like the investment in helping Brian break through his trauma was too much for you or not healthy for you? 2. How do you take the power back from the other side of a tr... by A Codependent Mind

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S4 - #12 Codependency and Relationships - Gender: In this episode we discuss the intersection of gender with codependency. We explore how gender roles and expectations can be sources of trauma, leading individuals to internalize shame and feel pressure to conform. Gendered expectations can also rein... by A Codependent Mind

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