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FromA Codependent Mind

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Rooting out codependency involves going back to the source, to where the codependent habits and behaviors first formed. This is a clip from Season 3, episode 5 where Brian discusses the effect his dad's anger had on him as a child.

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May 16, 2023

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An honest first-hand account of descent into and emergence from codependency. Brian and Stephanie share their journey of codependency recovery and understanding. Through first-hand experience, extensive research, and countless hours of discussion with his wife Stephanie, Brian has been able to understand the web of behaviors that formed his ’codependency’ and to heal from the trauma and the shame that was at the root of it.

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S2 - #1 Healing Codependency - Getting Started: Website: https://www.codependentmind.com/ This season explores how Brian worked to 're-make' his codependent mind. In this episode we discuss the challenges that Brian faced in getting started on that process and what was needed for him to begin to h... by A Codependent Mind
43 min listen
S1 - #3 Codependency and Trauma Bonding: Website: https://www.codependentmind.com/ In this episode, Stephanie and Brian discuss the concept of trauma bonding within codependent relationships, particularly focusing on two of Brian's past romantic relationships characterized by abuse and narc... by A Codependent Mind
38 min listen
S1 - #1 Codependency - Origins: What is codependency? And from where do codependent behaviors emerge? Every 'codependent' has an origin story. This is Brian's. Website: https://www.codependentmind.com/ * We have learned a lot as we have done this podcast. One thing Brian realized i... by A Codependent Mind
33 min listen
S1 - #2 Codependency and Trauma: Often codependence behaviors emerge as a response to trauma. What is trauma? How is it different then other stressful, even violent, events? What is it like to live with unhealed trauma? This is Brian's story. In this episode: 00:00:55 What is traum... by A Codependent Mind
28 min listen
S3 - #5 Beyond Codependency - Family of Origin: In this episode we take the opportunity to talk more about Brian's 'family of origin' and how it had more of an effect on the development of his codependent behaviors than either of us realized. Brian discusses his father's anger issues, his mother's... by A Codependent Mind
41 min listen
S2-#2 Healing Codependency - Emotional Development: Website: https://www.codependentmind.com/ In this episode we discuss the steps that Brian took to repair the damage done to his emotional system by abuse and trauma. From capacity building through understanding and now working on mastery, Brian has b... by A Codependent Mind
45 min listen
S1 - #6 Codependency and Shame: Website: https://www.codependentmind.com/ Shame evolved to give us information about the world. But trauma induced shame can be overwhelming and crippling, even life-threatening. Understanding the role shame played in his life and fueled his codepend... by A Codependent Mind
31 min listen
S1 - #5 Codependency and Lack of Agency: Website: https://www.codependentmind.com/ What is involved in the concept of 'personal agency'? How is agency or its lack connected to codependent behaviors? We explore Brian's experience with those questions in mind. What is involved in the concept ... by A Codependent Mind
25 min listen
S1 - #4 Codependency and Narcissism: Website: https://www.codependentmind.com/ Narcissists are an especially dangerous and toxic pairing for people with codependent behaviors, due to the way each person’s maladaptive behaviors work together. In this episode we discuss the general charac... by A Codependent Mind
35 min listen
S2 - #5 Healing Codependency - Loving a Codependent Mind: Website: https://www.codependentmind.com/ In this episode, we flip the script and Stephanie discusses her experiences loving, and trying to form a relationship with, someone who engages in codependent behaviors. 00:03:03 Stephanie's past00:04:35 Jek... by A Codependent Mind
27 min listen
S2 - #3 Healing Codependency - Re-Writing Stories: Website: https://www.codependentmind.com/ Stories are powerful tools to help us understand ourselves and our lives. Unfortunately for Brian, many of the stories he adopted or told did just the opposite - served to further cloud and obfuscate what was... by A Codependent Mind
37 min listen
S3 - #4 Beyond Codependency - Relationships: website: https://www.codependentmind.com/ In this episode, we talk about the different kinds of relationships Brian has had in his life - with abusive people, with other 'codependent's, and with 'healthy' people. Stephanie and Brian discuss how they ... by A Codependent Mind
52 min listen
S3 - #2 Beyond Codependency - Diagnosis: Codependency is not an official diagnosis in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual (DSM) of Mental Disorders. What does that mean and does it matter? And what is a diagnosis anyway? How can it help or hurt the healing process? Website: https://www.co... by A Codependent Mind
31 min listen
S1 - #7 Codependency and Emotional Immaturity: Website: https://www.codependentmind.com/ The process of learning what emotions are and how manage them was interrupted for Brian at a very early age by abuse and trauma. Because of that, he never really learned how to identify his emotions or what ... by A Codependent Mind
31 min listen
S4 - #3 Codependency and Relationships: Emotional Regulation: Learning how to regulate your emotions is a critical to be able to go on to develop healthy, stable relationships. Unfortunately, that learning is interrupted and/or distorted for many people; it was for Brian. We discuss how what emotional regulatio... by A Codependent Mind
31 min listen
S2 - #4 Healing from Codependency - Breaking the Powerlessness Habit: Website: https://www.codependentmind.com/ Even after largely healing from the trauma that started Brian down the path of codependency, he was still left with the behaviors that formed in response to that trauma. So although the source of the codepend... by A Codependent Mind
40 min listen
S3 - #11 Beyond Codependency - Anger and Resentment: Along with shame and fear, anger and resentment are two challenging emotions for people with codependent habits to deal with. That was certainly the case for Brian. In this episode we explore the differences between anger and resentment, where they c... by A Codependent Mind
40 min listen
S3 - #6 Beyond Codependency - Shame Venting: If shame is not resolved, it can just build up and up until the pressure of trying to suppress it gets to be too much. Then what do you do with it? One way Brian attempted to relieve the pressure from his pent up shame was 'shame-venting' or over-sh... by A Codependent Mind
32 min listen
S3 - #7 Beyond Codependency - The Serenity Prayer: The Serenity Prayer is often said at 12-step meetings like Alcoholic Anonymous and even Codependent Anonymous. But it can challenging to enact, especially if you were caught in codependency's web as Brian was. Now that he has recognized and recovered... by A Codependent Mind
29 min listen
S3 - #10 Beyond Codependency - Codependency Revisited: In this episode we revisit the idea and definition of codependency that we laid out in the very first episode. In doing this podcast, talking with each other and interacting with listeners, we have learned even more about what makes up this web of co... by A Codependent Mind
36 min listen
S3 - #1 Beyond Codependency - Boundaries: Website: https://www.codependentmind.com/ There is a lot of talk about personal boundaries these days - having them, respecting them, enforcing them. But what exactly are personal boundaries? Brian and Stephanie do a deep dive into the concept of bou... by A Codependent Mind
39 min listen
S3 - #8 Beyond Codependency - Listener Questions: In this episode, we answer listener questions. 1. Was there ever a time you felt like the investment in helping Brian break through his trauma was too much for you or not healthy for you? 2. How do you take the power back from the other side of a tr... by A Codependent Mind
35 min listen
S4 - #1 Codependency and Relationships: Intimacy: In this season, we investigate core concepts about relationships and the ways in which codependent behaviors can make it difficult to form and sustain loving, intimate relationships. In this episode, we start with a discussion of intimacy itself - wh... by A Codependent Mind
34 min listen
S3 - #3 Beyond Codependency - People Pleasing: website: https://www.codependentmind.com/ People pleasing sounds good. Why wouldn't we want the people in our life to be pleased? In this episode we explore the connect between people pleasing and codependency and discuss the problems people pleasing... by A Codependent Mind
25 min listen
S4 - #8 Codependency and Relationships - Sex (part 2) - Sexual Trauma: In this episode, we continue the discussion about the way that the trauma Brian experienced and the codependent behaviors that developed in response to it affected his sexual relationships and his relationship to sex. We broke this episode in to two ... by A Codependent Mind
38 min listen
S5 - #11 Codependency Voices: Money Talks: website: https://www.codependentmind.com/ Money talks, as they say, and in this episode we hear about the financial dimensions of Brian's codependency. For most of his life, money was not a tool for Brian to express his values and achieve his life go... by A Codependent Mind
33 min listen
S3 - #12 Beyond Codependency - 12 Steps: In "The Big Book" of Alcoholics Anonymous, 12 steps are suggested as a program of recovery. Those 12 steps have been adopted, with minimal changes, by Co-dependents Anonymous. Brian did not find the CoDA or the AA steps helpful in his efforts to unde... by A Codependent Mind
102 min listen
S4 - #5 Codependency and Relationships - Anniversary Episode: This episode we celebrate one year of doing the podcast! It has been a tremendous learning experience for both of us, we have each learned a lot about ourselves and it has strengthened and deepened our connection to each other. We have also learned s... by A Codependent Mind
38 min listen
S3 - #9 Beyond Codependency - Caretaking: One-sided caretaking is a hallmark of a codependent relationship. But caretaking is a natural human instinct. How do you know if the caretaking you are doing is healthy and appropriate or if it is a codependent habit? Thank you for liking, reviewing ... by A Codependent Mind
34 min listen
S3 - #13 Beyond Codependency - 12 Steps, part 2: This episode is a continuation of the previous episode, S3 - #12 Beyond Codependency - 12 Steps. We discuss steps six through 12. Below are all 12 steps, plus reference to previous episodes that expand on the ideas and actions described by each ind... by A Codependent Mind
31 min listen

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S6 - #8 Chapter Eight: Rewriting Stories by A Codependent Mind
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S6 - #7 Chapter Seven: Healing Trauma and Emotional Wounds: The full audiobook can be purchased on Amazon (https://www.amazon.com/Making-Re-Making-Codependent-Mind-Codependency/dp/B0D2LYSJC3/) and Spotify (https://open.spotify.com/show/4fzyWWfGTv34T5Hev7DsOP) and other platforms. If you are enjoying listenin... by A Codependent Mind
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S6 - #6 Chapter Six: Getting Started: The full audiobook can be purchased on Amazon (https://www.amazon.com/Making-Re-Making-Codependent-Mind-Codependency/dp/B0D2LYSJC3/) and Spotify (https://open.spotify.com/show/4fzyWWfGTv34T5Hev7DsOP) and other platforms. If you are enjoying listenin... by A Codependent Mind
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S6 - #5 Chapter 5: The Fully Made Codependent Mind: The full audiobook can be purchased on Amazon (https://www.amazon.com/Making-Re-Making-Codependent-Mind-Codependency/dp/B0D2LYSJC3/) and Spotify (https://open.spotify.com/show/4fzyWWfGTv34T5Hev7DsOP) and other platforms. If you are enjoying listenin... by A Codependent Mind
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S6 - #4 Chapter 4: Toxic Relationships: If you are enjoying listening to the book, please leave a review on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/review/create-review/?ie=UTF8&channel=glance-detail&asin=B0CYH7TMZ1 In this episode, Brian reads chapter 4, which details his back to back rela... by A Codependent Mind
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S6 - #3 Chapter Three: Human Connection: If you are enjoying listening to the book, please leave a review on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/review/create-review/?ie=UTF8&channel=glance-detail&asin=B0CYH7TMZ1 In this chapter, Brian reflects on his struggles with codependency, which h... by A Codependent Mind
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S6 - #2 Chapter 2 - Trauma: Get your copy on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0CYH7TMZ1 In this chapter, Brian discusses the connection between trauma and his codependent habits. His experiences, including childhood dynamics and an early, abusive friendship are explored as s... by A Codependent Mind
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S6 - #1 Chapter One: Codependent Beginnings: This season Brian will be reading aloud from the book we just published (link and description below). Chapter One frames codependency as learned, strategic, adaptive response to feelings of powerlessness, to emotional pain. It also covers the dynamic... by A Codependent Mind
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S5 - #11 Codependency Voices: Money Talks: website: https://www.codependentmind.com/ Money talks, as they say, and in this episode we hear about the financial dimensions of Brian's codependency. For most of his life, money was not a tool for Brian to express his values and achieve his life go... by A Codependent Mind
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S5 - #10 Codependency Voices: Pets: website: https://www.codependentmind.com/ We have described codependency as an interpersonal relationship dynamic, but in doing so, we may have inadvertently left out a whole category of relationships in which codependency can manifest - relationship... by A Codependent Mind
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S5 - #9 Codependency Voices: Nicole on the Helping/Healing Professions: Learn more about Nicole's coaching practice, Meaning in Medicine, here: https://www.meaninginmed.com/about The Enneagram Test - free test. Be sure to select the "Classical Test." Read about your results through the Enneagram Institute here. In th... by A Codependent Mind
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S5-#8 Codependency Voices: Rebecca on Self-Discovery: website: https://www.codependentmind.com/ In this episode, Brian and Stephanie talk with Rebecca about the emotional complexities of self-discovery and growth within the context of codependency. We discuss Rebecca's relationships, her struggle with ... by A Codependent Mind
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S5-#7 Codependency Voices: Chris on Happy Endings: website: https://www.codependentmind.com/ Chris shares with us his story of codependency recovery. From a lonely, difficult childhood, through two marriages to disordered partners, through isolation, depression and despair, Chris found his way out of... by A Codependent Mind
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S5-#6 Codependency Voices: Bea on Isolation: In this episode, we talk with Stephanie's friend Bea, who has struggled with codependent behaviors her whole life. Her last relationship ended when she realized that it was not a relationship in which she felt seen or safe - her role in the relations... by A Codependent Mind
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S5-#5 Codependency Voices - Narcissism and Codependency: In this episode we ‘hear’ from narcissists as Brian shares his hardwon insight into narcissistic behaviors coming from decades of friendships and relationships with narcissistic people. Building on conversations from previous episodes, we discuss the... by A Codependent Mind
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S5 - #4 Codependency Voices - Taylor on self-(re)discovery: In this episode, we talk with Taylor about the roots of the codependent behaviors, their challenges in breaking free from those behaviors and finding a sense of identity, the lessons they have garnered and the insight they have achieved. Taylor share... by A Codependent Mind
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S5 - #3 Codependency Voices - Brinn on addiction and attachment styles: In this episode, we hear from Brinn about her journey of self-discovery, including her exploration of codependency patterns, her family's dynamics, and her own relationships Brinn talks about her family roles, her father's history as an adult child o... by A Codependent Mind
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S5 - #2 Codependency Voices - Carly on authenticity: In this episode, we have a candid and open conversation Carly about her personal journey of overcoming codependency, people-pleasing, and addiction. She shares with us her childhood experiences growing up in a chaotic household with dr... by A Codependent Mind
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S4 -#13 Codependency and Relationships: You, Me, Us: In this episode, we expand on the discussion of interdependence, that we started in episode 2 or Season 4 ”Dependency, Codependency and Interdependence”. We use the lens of ”You, Me, Us” to explore what we owe ourselves in relationships, what we owe ... by A Codependent Mind
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S4 - #12 Codependency and Relationships - Gender: In this episode we discuss the intersection of gender with codependency. We explore how gender roles and expectations can be sources of trauma, leading individuals to internalize shame and feel pressure to conform. Gendered expectations can also rein... by A Codependent Mind
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S5 - #1 Codependency and Relationships - Jason: As a preview of Season 5, when we will be introducing more voices into the conversation, we have a guest on this episode. Jason reflects on his struggles with codependent behaviors and the origins of these behaviors in their family of origin. He disc... by A Codependent Mind
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S4 - #10 Codependency and Relationships - Sex (part 4) - Sexual Healing: In this episode, the final one in our 'mini-series' about sex and codependency, we discuss Brian's past experiences of sexual trauma and how they had led to codependent behaviors in his relationships. We highlight three key elements that contributed ... by A Codependent Mind
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S4 - #9 Codependency and Relationships - Sex (part 3) - Sexual Trauma: In this episode, we continue the discussion about the way that trauma Brian experienced and the codependent behaviors that developed in response to it affected his sexual relationships and his relationship to sex. We broke this episode in to two part... by A Codependent Mind
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S4 - #8 Codependency and Relationships - Sex (part 2) - Sexual Trauma: In this episode, we continue the discussion about the way that the trauma Brian experienced and the codependent behaviors that developed in response to it affected his sexual relationships and his relationship to sex. We broke this episode in to two ... by A Codependent Mind
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S4 - #7 Codependency and Relationships - Sex (part 1): One subject that we have not discussed with much depth is sex, even though it is an important component of human relationships and it played a central role in Brian's struggle with shame and fear of intimacy. In this episode, we put sex front and cen... by A Codependent Mind
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S2 -#6 Codependency and Relationships: Vulnerability: Vulnerability, a key ingredient for emotionally intimate relationships, can be difficult for people struggling with codependency. Brian developed codependent behaviors in order to try to protect himself from emotional harm, so deliberately being vuln... by A Codependent Mind
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S4 - #5 Codependency and Relationships - Anniversary Episode: This episode we celebrate one year of doing the podcast! It has been a tremendous learning experience for both of us, we have each learned a lot about ourselves and it has strengthened and deepened our connection to each other. We have also learned s... by A Codependent Mind
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S4 -#4 Codependency and Relationships: Trust: Trust has been a major issue in our relationship. Brian's codependent habits, which included people pleasing and reflexive lying, made it difficult to for him to trust himself and consequently, difficult for Stephanie to place her trust in him and in... by A Codependent Mind
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