Picking up where we left off in the last episode, we discuss what it looks like to really work at developing the “muscle” within all of us that alerts us to someone crossing into our hula hoops.  Practicing an awareness for when someone crosses those lines (aka limits, or our hula hoop) and what it feels like when that line is crossed is a great place to start. We also talk about naming what we are afraid of when setting boundaries as well as working on identifying what we need when our limits are crossed. Jason and I finally land the plane as we talk more about the sobering reality that setting boundaries won’t fix or change others (this can be hard to swallow); nor should boundaries be used to punish.  Instead, boundaries help protect us and provide clarity and ultimately help us take back our power. Thanks for joining us, we are grateful that YOU are here. MasterClasses for men can be found here. Info on the Empowered Boundaries MasterClass for women is here. Would love to connect with you on Instagram - @shelley_martinkus. We offer 1:1 coaching, couples recovery coaching, support groups, MasterClasses and on-line courses - check out our websites: redemptiveliving.com and rlforwomen.com for the full scoop! Click here to subscribe to Shelley’s {almost} monthly letter. Questions for the Podcast? Email us with the subject line: Podcast.