This month, I’m taking a week for each of the components of the thought model as developed by my coach, Brooke Castillo.
She created the thought model as a combination of various thought leaders and teachers she studied early in her career as a life coach.
I’ve talked about the model before, but if you haven’t heard those conversations, let me give you the big picture.

Circumstance
With any situation in your life, you have a neutral circumstance. This is the fact of the situation, devoid of any emotion or bias. The circumstance is the only part of the thought model over which you have no control – and that’s great news.

Thought
This is your thought about that circumstance. The sentence in your head.

Feeling
This is your emotion about the thought you’re having.

Action
This is the step you take – the action – based on the thought you’re having and the feeling that thought generated. It can also be a reaction or inaction.

Result
This is the result you achieve based on the action, inaction, or reaction.

Today, I want to hone in on your thoughts. These are the sentences in your head about the circumstances of your life.
Your thoughts determine EVERYTHING. Every result you achieve in your life…whether it’s a positive result, a negative result, or a non-result (which is, actually, a result), is due to the thoughts you are having.
Most of us are completely unaware of the thoughts we’re having. Of the sentences in our head. We certainly don’t realize the affect these thoughts are having on every area of our life.
 
Let’s look at a few examples:
CIRCUMSTANCE: I didn’t get that promotion.
If your thought is “They don’t appreciate my work” or “I’m not good at my job” you’re going to take a certain action.
-You might slack off your job performance.
-You might start looking for another job.
-You might develop an attitude.
 
If, on the other hand, your thought is “I will double down on my work performance” you will take a very different action.
-You will improve your job performance.
-You will become more engaged at work.
 
Do you see how these different thoughts will generate very different results? In the first set, you’re likely to never be considered for a promotion at that employer, and you will probably hinder your ability to get another job somewhere else. You will become labeled as “difficult.”
In the second set, you will contribute more than ever, which will increase your chances for a promotion down the line. If you still decide to leave, your chances of getting a new job will be better.
Most importantly, in the second set, you will be evolving to a better version of yourself. Taking rejection as a source of motivation, rather than as a reason to believe you are unworthy or that others don’t appreciate your contribution.

Here’s another example:
CIRCUMSTANCE: My coworker didn’t complete her part of the project by the deadline.
If your thought is “My coworker is worthless” or “I have to do all the work around here,” you might take these actions, none of which serve you:
-You talk about your coworker to other coworkers.
-You stop talking to your worker or become passive-aggressive towards her.
-You develop an attitude about how much more you do at work than anyone else.
If, on the other hand, your thought is “My coworker did the best she could” or “I’m more than capable of taking up the slack on this project” you might take these actions:
-Double down to make sure the project is completed on time (with a positive attitude)
-Talk to your coworker about why she wasn’t able to complete her portion on time – from a place of trying to understand and build the relationship, rather than condemn and place blame.
-Celebrate the success of the project with your coworker, with no thought of who did what.
In the first set of actions, your results might be: You damage the relationship with your coworker and your reputation at work.
In the second set of actions, your results might be: gaining a great reputation at work, building a relations