Shownotes How Barbara paved the way for Layla to be her sexual self Why truly meeting yourself means meeting God Divine masculine and divine feminine as an invitation to play your identity Creating systemic change through becoming softer and more inclusive The ways Tantra makes hard change feel easier and safer The top places people find ecstasy in life that isn’t sex or orgasm A step-by-step teaching of one of Barbara’s favorite breathwork techniques Bio Barbara Carrellas is the founder of Urban Tantra®, an approach to conscious sexuality that adapts and blends a wide variety of sacred sexuality practices from Tantra to BDSM. She’s the author of Urban Tantra – the world’s first LGBTQ+-inclusive Tantric sex book, Ecstasy is Necessary and Luxurious Loving.  Her books, workshops and lectures are an eclectic mix of sexual and spiritual practices designed to encourage readers and participants of all genders and sexual preferences to expand their capacity for both pleasure and spiritual fulfillment.  Urban Tantra® is an international community, a philosophy, and an inclusive conscious sexuality practice that supports both personal and professional goals. Barbara is also the founder of the Urban Tantra® Professional Training Program, a comprehensive training program in the practice and application of conscious sexuality and the co-founder of Erotic Awakening, a pioneering series of workshops focusing on the physical, spiritual and healing powers of sex.    Timestamps 00:01:17 - Guest introduction 00:01:50 - Layla’s first introduction to Barbara when she was an undergrad at Stanford 00:03:47 - How Barbara paved the way for Layla to be her sexual self 00:05:26 - How the AIDS epidemic in NYC introduced Barbara to Tantra 00:07:10 - Tantra is so much bigger than just sex 00:10:14 - The real reason Barbara started studying Tantra 00:14:10 - Bringing powerful healing neo-Tantric practices to gay men with AIDS 00:16:11 - Layla shares how Tantra supported one of the hardest experiences of her life 00:17:14 - Sign up for Layla’s newsletter at LaylaMartin.com 00:21:46 - Meeting yourself in the intensity means meeting God 00:25:19 - How Tantra became so heteronormative 00:28:04 - Your invitation into the VITA™ Coaching Certification 00:31:44 - How divine masculine and divine feminine are an invitation to play your identity 00:37:16 - Creating systemic change through becoming softer and more inclusive 00:41:20 - How is Tantra best helpful for the gender and sex minority? 00:45:59 - Tantra makes change feel easier and safer 00:52:15 - The universal desire to find “something more” 00:56:02 - Layla and Barbara drink MOOD™ Sexy Supplements 10:00:54 - Where people find ecstasy in life that isn’t sex or orgasm 01:02:10 - Barbara teaches one of her favorite breathwork techniques 01:05:00 - One of Barbara’s weirdest Tantric experiences 01:09:24 - Where to find Barbara’s work 01:11:10 - Conclusion   Penis Massage Guide Pussy Massage Guide